crying is overrated

Last month, a friend of mine cried & pour her heart out saying her man cheated on her & this week i saw them happily dining together..i was like ?????? thats when i started thinking abt the past & it makes me wonder how do i ever went thru all these drama's in relationship, cheating men, controlling men...& what did i do? i stayed by their side for years...then i start pondering, y do some of these women stayed in the relationship when they knoe ther's no future? is it coz they think that by waiting they hoped that the men will change & then they can have a future or these women jus love to torture themselves?

someone wise once told me its better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not.. see in my experience, i stayed in the relationship changing myself hoping that he would change & hence the relationship would change....well looked where that got me...straight to hell.. i shud hav known better that i shudnt change myself...infact rather than changing me, i shud be focusing on me...& i shud be thinkin "what do i get from this guy by being with him?" sadly there are plenty of women out there...wondering & crying on y do their men torture them & yet their still with these men....ask yourself back sweetie? y r u with them if they torture u? LOVE? if torture is love then my dear you need a new dictionary...

open your eyes ladies, there are so many other good men & dun waste your time on these jerks...he doesnt deserve you..enuff sed....

just remember this, "when u stand up for yourself in a dignified, feminine n womanly way, you can get anything you want from a man. When u place a high value on yourself in the right way,

so will he" sherry argov

till then c u:)