be that bitch

so yeah every woman wants respect, every woman wants to be love and most woman i knoe wants to get married eventually....wats the problem??? jus ask the man to propose? easy as that...hehehhe wish it was...well u can give all kinds of excuse for him...& as malays, u cant jus move in or live together & make babies...u gotta & hav to be married first...so slash the part where living together and shacking up makes sense for you both...coz u know its never gonna be enuff for u...so here's the deal...go to borders spare abt 2 hrs of ur time with a latte and read wat this woman has to say..coz she's brilliant...read it from cover to cover ....

no its no secret & she's stating the obvious....yes n u know wats the obvious....if ur making it easy y shud he commit??...

why men love bitches? go read it..

Part 2 to u from me

ok so now that u've had a vision board on what u want....hav u been looking at it everyday? do u believe that u'll achieve it? now here's the part where i tell u to believe the impossibility.... dun be discouraged by saying OHHHnnnoooo here comes the positive thinking....well dats right u gotta be positive that u will absolutely achieve your goals.... if u dun belive, no one else will believe it for u...n bare in mind that YOU DUN HAV TO SEE IT TO BELIEVE IT...if u see it in ur mind u'll see it in ur eyes...

being optimistic also doesnt help if u heart doesnt believe or have the passion towards your goal...i'll give u n example, say u wanna find ur life partner by the end of the year.... but if ur actions and ur belive doesnt sync....i can guarantee that u'll be disappointed...so when u want something....let the people know, ( well you dun hav to announce it on ur FB or twitter status) what i mean is when people ask u when r u gonna kahwin, alwayz & alwayz answer something positive that way your reminding yourself that u wan to find your life partner & never contradicting yourself....sometimes when u tell people, doors open... & if u contradict ur self...opportunity might pass u by....

now that u have a vision board.... for it to be more effective i want you to visualize the event in detail how u achieve your goal...of course u may not know how, but create an event in ur mind & play it like its a memory.....for eg, if u wanna find ur life partner, create an event how u meet him...maybe at a restaurant? or a function..... picture it in ur mind how u wan him to approach u....visualize it like ur playing a movie in ur head.... now do this every nite before u go to bed....

Now the most important part of this process....is when u visualize this event in ur head....u hav to believe it with ur head & heart that u gonna meet this person...even better if u could include how u feel when u meet this guy (nervous, excited).....feeling how u get what u want is important coz it create good feelings and when u constantly hav good feelings good things comes when ur feeling good....

ever notice when 1 bad thing happend in a day, more bad things happen later on that day (if u stick to being bad mood)...so u gotta keep having good feelings...to help create good things...

(will write more later)

so wat i want u to focus now is to visualize the event in ur head & believe it like it had already happened...insyaAllah.... i've done this...people close to me had done it... so its all up 2 u...how bad do u want change??

Material girls

Was jus talking to my designer regarding my wedding dress...m still not sure to do 2 piece or a dress...(of course la kene cover, maklumla my parents are very conservative pple...alasan die...nanti org kata tak senonoh la...blablabla...) ok enuff of me...while we were discussing abt my reception outfit...we got to talking abt materials or kain 2 buy...

it got me thinking abt some of my friends when they expressed their anxiety when they purchased such lovely materials but unable to do much with it due to the material condition...

so m gonna give u some of the designers advice to me on looking for your material...

before you go all excited to shop for you wedding dress fabric, decide on the design u want or shud i say suits ur body type, then consult ur designer on what fabrics is the best for that particular design...that way u knoe how many meters u need ( u wldnt accidentally buy extra coz the sales girl told u that the fabric is on discount ) your lining fabrics, your veil fabrics if u need any lace (to patch it on ) & so on so forth.... Yeah i knoe it can be great fun browsing thru the many exquisite fabrics available, BUT DONT BE TEMPTED to purchase anything until you've double- checked with an expert or u could end up making a very EXPENSIVE mistake...

so, before u buy....

1) find a style that suits u

2) call or search for a designer at your liking

3) make appointment & discuss the style...let the designer turn the style into a design...

with the approve design....

1) either ask your designer type of fabric /

2) take a small fabric sample for approval or better yet

3) take your designer to go fabric shopping with you (p/s : did you knoe designers/ tailors get special discount from fabric stores...bonus points for your budget!!!

so even though u want that beaded chiffon sooo badly.....Sabar ye....wait & c what your designer says...after all he/she are the industry experts....Then all you need to do is take a deep breath, relax and let your designer create magic with you beautiful bridal fabric....

ok till then c u :)

walk with me

hey peeps...FIFA world cup is here & every world cup/ euro cup me & frens will play the mcd fantasy football to challenge each other & c who's the best team managers among us...& us gurls got so into it to prove to guys that we also can b an awesome soccer manager...ooh well as bz & frustrated that spain lost their first game ( euro cup champions jinx - look at greece) i've been meaning to blog but jus couldnt find the right time..so here i am on friday afternoon when m supposed to be doing report m blogging abt SHOES....

YEah finally i get to talk on shoes in weddings...

some brides may not find it as important as their dress.....Who says they are not IMportant???? look how beautiful the louboutin shoes is heheheh picture this...u in ur soft lilac baju sanding...wearing this pair wahhh doesnt that make u feel like the queen of the day....anywayz, this is the one day in ur life u get 2 wear ur dream shoes... ok mayb to the fortunate, u wear those everyday, but im sure u dun plan on wearing bling2 shoes to work & definitely safe to say im sure u wanna save the best bling for ur wedding....

Although the wedding shoe culture havent really hit us malays yet, coz we tend to opt for the matchy matchy songket shoes...or jus crystald wedding shoes (its totally fine if dats wat u really want) , great shoes choices can make a huge difference for us bride, beside's it can be your hantaran from him... so 1 shoe no spending required :P hehehhehe

white, ivory, silver, gold....dats the normal colours bride opt for...well u dun hav 2 be the same as everyone else, so if ur planning on wearing white or ivory dress, (baju nikah/ reception) so y dun u choose some coloured shoe...like this pastel pink badgley mishcka looks so stunning with white baju nikah......

or one of my favourites.....new collection by jimmy choo, so its black, well its good let it stand out, after all....im sure every bride wanna be one of a kind :)

i'll leave u with sumore yummy shoes

Think Carrie bradshaw :P

ok so till then cu :)

Look of LOVe

Ola...had a very bz week...but a good one...cant wait for the weekend wher i could jus chill & catch up with my gfs...hehehh anywayz, back to me blogging.. today m gonna ramble on abt hairstyles... i cldnt stress more on how important hairstyle for brides...coz the way u wear ur hair can make it or break it... whats the point of spending so much on ur dress when ur hair macam tongkang pecah LOL ( apologies for the weird description) but yeah u get wat i mean rite?? & believe me u will care, especially when u paid a huge amt on photographers & videographers...& in the video or the photo everything looked beautiful except your hair....such a small part in the wedding but a very important one .... so ladies avoid future disappointments & read on..

so you've browse magazines looking for hairstyle..& u have a few types that u like...but hav u ever thought whether that particular style worn by some celeb or model suits u?

...or ok so u leave it to ur stylist coz thats wat u paying them for right??? well wrong...they mayb a stylist but they dun style u full time.... so only u knoe wat looks good on u...even if they style ur hair full time im sure ur gonna opt for a different hairdstyle to look different on ur big day...so my first advice to u is to find out whats your FACE SHAPE...& note that not everyone suits that side swept look that some off u dreamed off ....

beauty tip 1#

understand your face shape so u can use your hair to balance out & play ur best features..grab a mirror, pull back ur hair & ask urself these questions :

1) from hairline to jawline, what is the overall shape

2)is my forehead wider than my jaw line?

3) is my jaw line wider than my forehead?

4)how prominent & rounded are my cheekbones?

Square : you have a wide forehead and a strong jaw line

Incredible hairstyle for u:

like Carmen Electra, you'll look gorgeous with a soft, side swept fringe, or layers around the front and some curl/movement aimed inwards to soften your face

AVOID: Vicious partings and harsh slick styles

Round : Characterized by a round chin and softter "corners" along the jaw line & forehead

Incredible style for u : Add height up top like Charlize Theron, but minimize hair width by keeping it smooth at the sides and around the ear( making the face appear longer)

AVOID: Pulling your hair back in a tight & slick style

Oval: Your overall face shape is, well egg-like. Soft & balance like Eva Longoria, you've got the most versatile shape so you suits alot of different styles

Incredible style for you: your hair gently parted to one side, and back in a soft, low chignon (A roll or knot of hair worn at the back of the head or especially at the nape of the neck)

AVOID: Covering your face with masses of overdone curls. show off your gorgeous shape

Beauty tip 2# : Dont lose your identity, your style shud suit you!

if you dont like or wear overdone updos, tight curls or even long hair, who says you have to for your wedding? never forget your organic style. Make sure you actually like the hairstyle your goin to hav and feel comfortable with it. & that your not doing it because of how the veils sits or because your stylist says extravagant braids are "what everyone's doing"

HEART: Like Jessica Alba, your widest at the forehead , with a slightly pointed chin

Incredible do's for u : A do that creates width around your chin-graduated layers around front are good. as are soft curls

AVOID: Anything straight or flat

So hopefully these helps the bride 2 be's...and jus remember Its a simple rule:

Intricate dress=Simple hair

Simple dress= Intricate hair.

So if your dress is a pearl beaded work of art, a centre part and loose waves could look great. whereas if ur wearing something like a simple slip, an audrey hepburn chignon might be the order of the day. so hav fun researchin for your hair...lagipun kan rambut 2 mahkota wanita hehehhe ....ok till then c u :)

what do u want?

A few special blogs will be dedicated to a fren of mine who need some faith & encouragement....

my dear, i knoe wat u r going thru & i've gone thru the same thing as you....so dun feel as if ur the only one in the world facing this issue....

in these hard times of yours, i shall write a few steps for you to achieve wat you want ....insyaAllah. ok, i dun want u to worry abt how bad your situation or what is gonna happen to you...clear your mind & be open minded most of all have unwavering faith.....

the first step is the easy part according to some people...but there are people who still cant figure it out... so all i want you to do is to sit down & really think abt what do u want? think carefully & be specific with wat u want...if u could draw it, then do it...or desribe in a piece of paper...or if ur a more IT person take images & compile

it together...wat ever u do...jus be specific with wat u want....some people may hav too many wants than they'll lose focus on wat do they really want now....so think carefully about wat u really want in ur life right now...think abt it...

u sure? ok i'll let u sleep on it & i'll tell u wats next....

till then cu :)

crying is overrated

Last month, a friend of mine cried & pour her heart out saying her man cheated on her & this week i saw them happily dining together..i was like ?????? thats when i started thinking abt the past & it makes me wonder how do i ever went thru all these drama's in relationship, cheating men, controlling men...& what did i do? i stayed by their side for years...then i start pondering, y do some of these women stayed in the relationship when they knoe ther's no future? is it coz they think that by waiting they hoped that the men will change & then they can have a future or these women jus love to torture themselves?

someone wise once told me its better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not.. see in my experience, i stayed in the relationship changing myself hoping that he would change & hence the relationship would change....well looked where that got me...straight to hell.. i shud hav known better that i shudnt change myself...infact rather than changing me, i shud be focusing on me...& i shud be thinkin "what do i get from this guy by being with him?" sadly there are plenty of women out there...wondering & crying on y do their men torture them & yet their still with these men....ask yourself back sweetie? y r u with them if they torture u? LOVE? if torture is love then my dear you need a new dictionary...

open your eyes ladies, there are so many other good men & dun waste your time on these jerks...he doesnt deserve you..enuff sed....

just remember this, "when u stand up for yourself in a dignified, feminine n womanly way, you can get anything you want from a man. When u place a high value on yourself in the right way,

so will he" sherry argov

till then c u:)

dress me up baby

OLA...yeay my blog hav been beautified by my lovely &

talented sister... the more reason for me to keep writting...m so xcited coz its so purtttyy hehehhe & its so maju with all the widgets & stuff...even i dun even knoe how to add these things lol...

okay back to the brides....im gonna talk more on brides dresses....there are so many new & upcoming creative designs of wedding outfit/gown but no matter how you think fit with ur taste, there are a few lingo in the design world that you shud be familliar of when u sit next to your designer...(so u dun look like duhhh) hehheheh . True enuff u shud trust ur designer's design

but m sure u bride to be browse like gazillion bride mags to find a designs dat suits ur liking...

Anyhow here's some style savy for u peeps....so when u browse those mags...u can look for the best cut for your body style :)

*Ball Gown- It features a fitted bodice, contrasted by a dramatic, full skirt

will suit: most figures, but may overwhelm shorter and more petite brides. ball gown is fantastic for diguising wide hips and large thighs and can also help balance out bustier brides

*A-line- as the name suggests, this silhouette boast a fitted bodice that

slopes gently outwards from the waistline to form a triangular 'A' shape.

will suit: jus abt everyone, but shud be avoided if ur waist is thick

*Princess- This silhouette is very similar to the A-line, with vertical seams runn

ing frm the shoulders to the hemline.

will suit- tall,short, slim, voluptuous- the princess

-style flatters most figure

*slip dress- the figure hugging slip dress. bias cut fabric caresses the curves in a style that is both elegant and sophisticated.

will suit- brides who are fairly slim but feminine-curves are needed to make a statement

*sheath/column- straight & sexy. the sheath is very fitted and slimline style that follows the line of the body. It has no defined waistline. the column differs from the sheath in that it is cut with a straight weft and vertical seams to hug the figure.

will suit-fairly tall, slender brides, but may also add an illusion of height to petite figures

*mermaid- A narrow style that fits to the body then flairs out below the knee. not an easy style to wear as it actually adds curves

will suit- slim & athletic or those with an in- proportion hourglass figure

*bustle back- remember that gorgeous dress from titanic? the one that went out at the back? well thats bustle back.

will suit- women who's got bust & bum like kate from titanic

*empire- a high waisted silhouette with the skirt

beginning just below a cropped bodice

will suit- thick waisted & boxy figures & petite brides as well....

So go on ladies...check & c whether the style dat u've had in mind suits ur figure...after all the wedding is all abt u :)

ok till then c u :)